You, Here, Me

This song was written from the perspective of someone who has completely f***ed up.

I mean, disaster kind of f****ed up, and the thoughts that go on in their head.

Ground Zero

This is not a good place to be. Everything is coming down on your head. You are being buried by whatever it is that you have done and its consequences. If you are self-aware enough to recognize it is ALL your fault, this is about as low as you can get.

I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror. My own reflection made me sick. Having to look at that stupid f***, that piece of s***. I couldn’t do it. I shaved my head. I shaved my face. I didn’t want to look anything like that loser in his mugshot. Nothing.

I still don’t like looking at pictures of that time, 6 years later. I know what that jackoff is about to go through. I know what that jackoff is doing around that time to go through the s*** he is about to go through. I hate him.

The good this is I don’t even recognize that person anymore. That was a lifetime ago, but it still hurts, and I still despise him with every ounce of passion I can muster. He is dead to me.

Breaking your own heart is hard, because you can’t escape yourself. I mean you can, and those thoughts absolutely crossed my mind, but that would just make it worse. Tim Ferriss puts it very well. If you are able to take whatever it is you are feeling at your lowest point, times that by 10, and give it to everyone of your friends and family, that is suicide. I had already put my family and friends in a s*** position, killing myself would only make that worse. I didn’t want that. The pain I inflicted on my parents, my wife, my daughters? Brought down by my selfishness? Only to be amplified by even more selfishness? Running away from the consequences of my actions? I couldn’t do it. I wanted to. But I couldn’t do it.

The Power Of Love

Huey Lewis put it best.

Actually, I can’t remember any of the lyrics to the song, but the title says it perfectly: the power of love.

The love of my family and friends allowed me to overcome the biggest obstacle (self-inflicted) that I will ever face in my life. The power of love. My mom said, “We will get through this.”

We.

Us.

Together.

Love allowed my problem to be her problem, my dad’s problem, my grandma’s problem, etc. Love brought us together. Their love for me dragged them down, and it would be their love that pulled me up. The power of love, is a curious thing (I did remember some lyrics!).

I mean it when I say in the song:

“The only reason I am standing here, is you’re the biggest piece of everything that I am.”

Redemption

After you get past whatever it is you are getting past, you can relate to a whole new group of people. You know what it’s like to be devastated. You know what it’s like to bring down everyone around you. The pain you can cause, how it looks, how it feels. You know all of that now.

What do you do with it?

You tell people about it. Tell people how you made it through, in the hopes that they will be able to make it through themselves.

Suicide is horrible.

Unimaginable to the person committing it. Being that low. Having no hope. Willing to hurt their family, and friends. Hurt their community. The fragility. The brokenness.

The feelings of their family and friends. Where did they go wrong? What should they have said? Feeling the pain that their loved one must have felt, and taking it on themselves.

It is complete devastation.

But it doesn’t have to be.

Do everything you can to let the person you love know they will make it through. You know why? Because they are still here. The only way you can’t make it is if you are dead. Humans are resilient. 

Making it through some of the biggest disasters in history. Self–inflicted or not.

And we ain’t dead yet.

Just remember:

“Every saint has a past. Every sinner has a future”

You, Here, Me (iTunes, Google Play, Amazon, Spotify)

I know you’re feeling like you life is over

can’t imagine getting any colder

realizing that you hit the bottom once again

just when you feel like that you’re getting something

where you’re standing started slowly crumbling

yesterday appears and pulls you under

once again

and it’s so hard to breathe,

without you here with me

you can hardly stand your own reflection

you’re caving in with everything that happened

everything that’s ever good you smashed it once again

the suffocation of the world surrounds you

should you fight or let the world consume you?

no way out when all the dark surrounds you once again

and its so hard to breathe,

without you here with me

Chorus

the only reason that I’m standing here

is you’re the biggest piece of everything that i am

and even if it takes a thousand years,

I’ll make up every second of the pain that i gave

cause it’s my on;y chance to breathe,

is you here with me

now you feel like you are starting over

feel the warmth now that the night is over

shadows creep away and leave you stronger than before

every saint has got a past there somewhere

and every sinner has a future out there

it doesn’t have to be the same as it was once before

and it’s so hard to breathe,

without you here with me

Chorus

the only reason that I’m standing here

is you’re the biggest piece of everything that i am

and even if it takes a thousand years,

I’ll make up every second of the pain that i gave

cause it’s my on;y chance to breathe,

is you here with me

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The Absolute Value Of Relationships

This is an article to help you with the difficult relationships in your life.

Do you hate somebody?

Do you cringe when you see them?

Do they ruin your day?

That is no way to live. Even if you only see them a few times a year, it’s no way to feel. Hate is ugly. 

Giving someone the power to ruin your day is sad.

Take the power back by changing your perspective.

Absolute Value

This is a math term, but you do not need to be a math lover to apply it to your life.

To put it plainly, it is the value from zero.

5 from zero could be a 5 or a -5.

That means whether it is positive or negative, the value is 5.

The greater the positive or the greater the negative, the greater the value.

-100 has just as much value as 100.

They are both 100 away from zero.

The bigger the positive, the bigger the value.

The bigger the negative, the bigger the value.

Relationships

If we apply this to relationships in our life, we can find the positive in even the most negative relationships.

Remember, the more negative, the higher the value.

Can you see the power in that?

It changes everything.

This can be a defining moment in your life.

The day you applied absolute value to your life.

You will gain just as much from the negative relationships as the positive ones in your life.

Application

What are some of your best relationships?

Friends? Parents? Siblings? Grandparents? Children?

What have you learned from them?

Make a list of 5 people and mark a tally for every lesson they taught you.

Now.

What are some of your worst relationships?

Unfortunately, this could be the same people on the positive list.

Family? Co-workers? Friends? Parents? Children? Spouses?

Make a list of your least favorite people, or the ones that have caused you the most harm.

I hope it’s not more than 5, but if it is, this exercise will benefit you even more.

Now, make a list of every bad thing they did to you. I mean EVERYTHING. This is for your eyes only, so be honest, dig deep, put it on paper.

Keep this in mind while you are deciding what to write down, we can’t learn from the negative if we deny it’s there.

This part is never easy, but it is the most important.

Once you get everything out, as painful as it is, you can get to the good part.

Take each of those bad things, and write out what you learned from them. Try to come up with two or three things for each negative.

Remember, they are supposed to be positive. You can’t put something like, “I learned that he/she is an a**hole.” That doesn’t count. Keep it a positive learning experience.

Now tally them up.

5 things? 10? 20? 30?

The more you practice the more you will come up with, the easier it gets.

The Number

What you will find is that some of your negative relationships actually have brought you more value than your positive ones.

Bad relationships can make you: stronger, smarter, more aware, resilient, compassionate, driven, and loving.

If you don’t focus on the negative, it diminishes that person’s power over you, their ability to ruin your day, to make you sad, and your feelings of hate.

I’m not saying you want to run up to them and give you a big ol sloppy kiss, but through their negativity in your life, you are a better person.

Their value in your life is higher than you thought.

You are better because of the negativity they brought in your life.

????

I know what you are thinking.

“If I am better because of the negative, is it really a negative?”

Exactly my point.

How different do you feel now?

The absolute value can be applied to anything negative if your life. No matter what, when you take the knowledge gained, you find the value.

Missing out on the promotion, or new job.

What did you learn?

What is the value?

My parents are sick.

What did you learn?

What is the value?

He verbally abused me.

What did you learn?

What is the value?

They were a horrible parent.

What did you learn?

What is the value?

You are a collection of the things that have happened to you, and the perspective you have given those things.

If you are unhappy, you need to change your perspective.

If you are sad, you need to change your perspective.

Find The Value

Find the positive you can take away from everything s****y that has ever happened to you.

All of those things have either made you better, or they are just waiting to make you better.

Find the absolute value in everything, positive and negative.

If you can spin everything to work in your favor, things start working in your favor.

Make the change.

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30 Days Of Genius Blog: Brene Brown

This interview has been the most difficult to write. There is so much tangible information I had a difficult time deciding what to leave out. Here is the link to the podcast. I pieced out the information for entrepreneurs specifically, but she has so much wisdom for life in general, you should do yourself a favor and check it out.

I have taken her interview on 30 Days of Genius with Chase Jarvis, extracted the information, and used it to answer common questions by readers just like you, who are looking to take their lives to the next level, or at least a different level than the one there are on.

Please enjoy.

How Do I Win?

The most important aspect of winning is making sure that you are not losing. Sabotaging is the easiest way to not only lose, but to feel like a loser.

You need to learn how to sift through your emotions, let go of the thoughts and feelings that are 

holding you back, and push through.

The sooner you push, the sooner you break through, the sooner you win.

Storytelling

This is not the kind of storytelling where you sit around in a circle and no matter what happens, everyone lives happily ever after. This is a conspiracy theory type of storytelling, and you are the main character. The good thing is, you are also the author of this story, and you are the one that chooses the ending.

There are two things that happen when we storytell: we get emotional, and we fill in information that we do not have. After that, we react to the situation where we filled in information as if it were fact, and it’s not.

See how that can work against you?

What was that look? What did they mean by that? Are they being sarcastic? They hate me. I’m not good enough. I suck.

Sound familiar?

It should. We all do it, until we learn not to.

Rising Strong

Remember this: You WILL fail.

Expecting something more positive?

I bet you did.

But I would rather be honest and realistic, because that is what is going to help you. If you are truly putting yourself out there, truly engaging in work and life, you will fail. If you are not failing, you are not trying hard enough.

I want you to have an honest and realistic perspective. You can get that by asking yourself a few tough questions: 1. What am I feeling? 2. What is the story I am telling myself? 3. What facts do I ACTUALLY have? 4. What information do I still need?

Turn directly to your storytelling self, listen to what you have to say, acknowledge the feelings, then look at the situation and the information you REALLY have.

After you ask yourself those questions, ask the people you are dealing with questions. Ask for clarification, maybe even go so far as to let them know you are telling yourself a story based on your interaction and you want clarification.

Show them you have the balls to ask tough questions.

They will have more respect for you because you are showing that you have respect for yourself. You will not allow yourself to storytell, you would rather know the truth. Bravo to you!

Dealing With Discomfort

One thing I found consistently with people that are able to recover faster and rise stronger are the ones that are able to endure discomfort the most.

Will it be uncomfortable clarifying a point with your boss? Probably.

When you don’t get the outcome you want at a business meeting, will it be uncomfortable to go back and possibly get beat up digging deeper in to where you went wrong? Absolutely.

But after those tough discussions, after the discomfort, you will have a crystal clear view of the situation and how to handle it. You will learn about them, you will learn about yourself, and you will be better for it.

Keep reminding yourself that it will be ok. You will get through it. How do I know? Because when you keep pushing through the darkness you eventually get to the light, every time. Think back on other difficult times in your life, other difficult situations. How did you feel at the beginning? Awful, I am sure. Well guess what? You are still here. And you will be after the next one. It will be hard, but you keep pushing. That’s how you win.

Quotes

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt

“Unused creativity. Creativity that has been disowned, is not benign. It’s painful, it metastasizes and turns in to dangerous things.”

“When you own the story, you get to write the ending.”

“Your ability to rise should never be predicated on other people.”

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Happy Anniversary

Every day, I think about the day you chose me.

The day you saw through the mess. Sifted through the ashes. Dug down to the core, and chose me.

You knew me before I ever even knew myself.

Our 8 years together have been a rollercoaster. Let’s be honest, I am the rollercoaster, you were just along for the ride. When people got off, you stayed on. You knew. You could see past the turmoil. 

You knew me, even when I didn’t know myself.

Thank you.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Thank you from the deepest part of my soul.

I still can’t believe you are the very first and last thing I see every single day.

I recognize it, I appreciate it, and I value it above everything else.

My drive and ambition is to show you every day that you were right. I am worth it. I am not defined by my mistake. I have something amazing inside me that needs to come out, that gets a chance to come out every single day, because of you. That’s why I work as hard as I do, to build my business, myself, and our life. You ask me to take a day off, to take it slow, but you know I can’t. There is too much to do, and you absolutely understand that. You know my dreams, you know they are going to materialize, and you believe in me.

Now I know myself.

I know my strengths.

I know my weaknesses.

 I know my purpose.

But you knew me first, and you are the driving force behind everything I do. You are my power. I spend my days proving you right. Letting you know you made the right decision. Letting the world know you made the right decision. You chose correctly when it would have been so much easier to walk away. I am in awe of your strength and resilience. There is no me without you.

As we enter in to our 9th year of matrimony, know that it is only going to get better. We have big dreams, and every single one of them is going to come true. We are a machine. Running stronger than ever. Nothing can stop us.

Me and you. You and me.

Forever and ever.

Love,

Joey

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Love The Ones You Hate

Hate is ugly.

Hate is unhealthy.

“But man, he/she is such an asshole.”

They did this to me.

They did that to me.

They make my life hard.

“I hate them.”

It’s Time To Re-write The Narrative

Just to be clear, my approach does not to take away from whatever they did to you, or continue to do to you. It is to look at the situation from the other side of the coin.

What if you were able to take the negative and make it a positive?

What if you could take the hate and learn to love?

The most important thing you can get out of this article is:

“Life is not what happens to you, it is what you do with it.”

If you want to dwell on yesterday, go ahead. It won’t get you anywhere, but, be my guest. The more you look backwards the less you are looking forward. I can’t remember who says this, but there is a reason the windshield is big and the review mirror is small.

Focus on the future, not the past.

And how do you do that Mr. Smarty Pants?

I’m glad you asked.

Step #1

Take the negative from yesterday, and focus on the growth it gave you for today. Focus on how much better you are today because of what you had to overcome yesterday.

They taught you something.

It exposed a weakness.

They broke you down.

If it wasn’t for that, you wouldn’t have been able to build up stronger.

You would still have that weakness, and not even know it was there.

But now do.

Thanks to them.

Value the relationship for what you gained from it. Just because it was not intended to be positive doesn’t mean you can’t make it positive.

Go back to 7th grade math, or whenever you learn this stuff, and think of it like an Absolute Value: the distance from zero. -10 and 10 are both 10 units away from 0. The value is 10. This person may be a -10 on your “life” line, but they are an Absolute Value of 10. You got 10 out of that relationship, even if they gave it to you negatively.

Still with me?

Ok, less with the math analogy and more with some hippy, mental stuff.

Step #2

Sit down. Close your eyes, and imagine the person(s) you hate. Just look at them. They aren’t saying anything, they aren’t doing anything. It is just you and them, in a room, looking at each other.

Tell them why you hate them.

You don’t need to yell. You don’t need to scream.

Just look, and talk.

After you have told them everything, let it sit in the air for a minute. Give it time to sink in.

Now walk over to them.

Put your arms around them.

And give them a hug.

Tell them, “I love you.”

Put the image of love and loving them in your mind. That’s where all of this hate comes from, and it’s where you can turn it around.

Every time you are feeling the negative, hateful feelings, just imagine hugging them, telling them you love them. Eventually the hate will recede, love will fill the void, and you can start using the windshield again.

Does this sound hippy dippy? Absolutely.

Does this work? Absolutely.

Try it and tell me it doesn’t. I dare you.

I triple dog dare you.

The Power Of Your Mind

You control your mind. Your mind does not control you.

Have a thought you don’t want to have? Don’t. Think of something else. Put another image in your head, put another thought in your head. Flip the script.

Your brain is a muscle, the more you use it the way you want it to produce, the more it produces for you.

Want to be more positive, think positive thoughts. Want to love more, think more loving thoughts. 

The more you practice the more you produce.

By thinking about the negative and the hate, you are not only building up your “poor me” muscles, you are giving that person power over you. Remember, the more you practice, the more you produce. 

That works with negative thoughts just as much as positive ones.

What do you want to produce?

Love, power, strength, and resilience?

Or weakness, fragility, and powerlessness?

It sounds like a stupid question doesn’t it? But people choose the latter ALL THE TIME.

You don’t need to be one of those people.

You control your mind.

Your mind does not control you.

“Take the power back” — Public Enemy

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Secrets Will Ruin Your Life

*disclaimer: This article will sound pious and self-righteous, but it really isn’t. I have been on the wrong side of this advice and I saw the error of my ways. Things were extremely difficult for me for a few years, but it was also the best thing that ever happened to me: the truth.

What they don’t know won’t hurt them, right?

It can be our little secret, or is it?

Have you ever told yourself these things?

You keep the secret because you are worried it would hurt their feelings to know the truth.

But you weren’t worried about their feelings when you did the thing you are keeping a secret, were you?

Now you have to keep it a secret. Place it in your back pocket and carry it with you, everywhere, forever.

You can act like it’s not there.

You tell people it’s not there.

You tell yourself it’s not there, it’s no big deal, it was only that once, or everyone does it.

Which is your favorite excuse?

Which one makes you feel ok about your secret? Your lie? Which one allows you to sleep at night?

The Real Secret

The truth is, everything you think you are doing by keeping that secret is slowly eating you alive.

Secrets are a cancer.

You can ignore them all you want. Tell whatever stories you want to, but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s there, and it’s destroying you, one cell at a time.

Doing drugs? Cheating? Drinking? Gambling? Flirting a little too much? Just getting a little high? 

What is it? What’s your cancer?

None of them is better or worse than the other. Secrets are secrets. The punishments may be different, but the cancers are all the same.

Telling the people you love and care about is out of the question because you know it will hurt them. 

As long as they don’t know, everything is ok, you have it under control. But you don’t. Your thinking has been flawed from the beginning. It shouldn’t have been done in the first place, and now you are justifying it. What an asshole.

Each of those secrets, each time you have to tell a lie to cover up those secrets, you are driving a wedge in to your relationships, and you are slowly killing yourself from the inside out.

If you are honest (which isn’t likely), you are just trying to avoid confrontation, or worse, punishment. Deep down you know what you are doing is wrong, but we are fascinating beasts, we just tell ourselves it is ok, using any excuse we can get our hands on, and voila! We excuse ourselves. Like magic.

If you are holding back a piece of yourself, you are never truly present. It is just sitting in the corner of every room, forcing you to keep your eye on it. Is it going to come out? Or is it just going to sit there? What if they see it? Over and over, day after day, this ball and chain that you attached to your own ankle is being dragged around, making it difficult to truly walk with the ones you love.

Why don’t you just let it go? Take it off. Be free.

Because you are afraid.

You want your cake and eat it too.

You want to do what you want to do, with zero regard to friends, family, and loved ones, but you don’t want them to know. You are what I would refer to, as a dickhead. You want them to think you are a good person. Maybe you are, but not right now, and that is killing you, whether you want to recognize it or not. You know they will look down on you. You know they will be mad at you, or maybe even hate you. It’s better to tuck it down deep inside, to sit on it, than let it out. You are jumping on the grenade. Now you feel good about yourself. Taking one for the team. What an asshole.

They Know

Stop pretending they can’t feel your secret. They know something is up. They know the real you. Just because you haven’t said it doesn’t mean you don’t wear it on your sleeve. They can smell the alcohol, they see your pupils, they know you don’t normally stay at work that late, they saw the bank statement. They know. But it’s not true if you don’t admit it, right? Deny, deny, deny as you slowly die, die, die.

Set Yourself Free

Tell the truth.

It is going to hurt, you and them.

You should have thought of that when you did it, or did it the first time, and every time after that, but 

you didn’t. Whatever happens, you deserve it, but they deserve the truth even more.

Worst case scenario, they are done with you. Should they give you a second chance? Or third? Maybe, maybe not, but you have given them the choice. Now that they have the truth, they can deal with the real you, at least what you have really done.

Best case scenario, they punch you in the face and give you that second or third chance. What that allows you to do is address the needs of the situation honestly. No more lies. No more stories. No more pretending. It is just you and the truth. Everyone can see it for what it is and you can attack it accordingly.

This will be the best and worst day of your life.

I did, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Ever since T-Day my life has been getting better and better.

Just do it. (This blog is not brought to you by Nike, but it should be).

You know it is the right thing to do.

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HOw Have My Views On Marriage Changed In My Life?

There are only two views to have on marriage: they are great or they suck.

You can have the same view your whole life, or it can evolve over time.

My bet would be that more views change from great to sucks, than sucks to great.

I am the former.

Great To Sucks

How could this happen? So sad. *sniff

I will tell you exactly, people story tell.

They story tell about their romance, their heartwarming tale of boy meets girl. They take what they want marriage and relationships to be and they project them on to their actual relationship. Love at first sight, high school sweethearts, good girl meets bad boy, etc. And they commit. Hell, they over commit. By the time they realize their relationship is poop it is too late and there is a ring on it, babies involved, the whole nine yards.

“You changed!”

“Where is the man/woman I married?”

“Waaa!”

They were never there.

You didn’t marry Noah (The Notebook)

You didn’t marry Jack (Titanic)

*for guys

You didn’t marry (fill in porn star name here, I don’t know any *wink *wink)

You filled in their gaps, their holes, with your story. What they were actually missing, you gave them. Why? Because it allowed you to have the fairytale you wanted. You had the perfect partner. You were going to beat the odds. They were going to write stories about your love. The problem is, they already wrote them, and you plagiarized your life with them.

Oopsie daisy.

Once it hits you, it hurts, bad. Along with the crumbling of your marriage comes the crumbling of your views on marriage. Marriage sucks. Boo matrimony.

Sucks To Sucks

Because you don’t have a very positive outlook on marriage, you don’t look for the perfect partner, you look for the okayest (made that word up, but it fits perfectly). You look for someone who you can tolerate, or fills out your checklist, has a good job, or whatever else is a mediocre measure to finding a partner. You half ass it going in, which leads to a half ass marriage, and it’s an “I told you so” for the rest of your life. You created a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nice work Casanova. “You can call me Nova.” — name that movie!

They look at the stats, and they look at how many marriages fail. They look at all the shitty relationships around them and go, “see!!”

They marry someone they don’t think is that great, or someone that they don’t feel they can be themselves around, or someone they need to hide things from.

They listened to the people, to the majority.

The problem is, most people are stupid. I am sorry if I offended you (but then why do you think you’re stupid?) We are at the bottom of education, we are the fattest, just look at this election? Holy moly! You think with this many idiots around you are going to get a good view of what marriage can really be?

“Come on man!!” — Chris Carter

If you are siding on the dumb-dumb majority, guess what? You’re a dumb-dumb!

Let that sink in, then read how it can be, how it should be.

Sucks To Great

This is me!! Tada!! This is how my view have changed!

I thought marriage was finding the person you tolerated the best. I am such a romantic.

Don’t fight much, nice person, would be a solid partner, mother (for my kids, not me. I have a mom), etc. I wasn’t looking for a best friend, I had enough guy friends. I wasn’t looking for soulmate, that’s a bunch of hooey. Nothing like that was real, it was just Hollywood, tricking us in to looking for bullshit, leading us down a path of misery and chasing a fantasy. I was WAY jaded.

I had great relationships to look to for inspiration.

But I listened to the dummies.

“That’s rare.”

or

“That’s a unicorn.”

“I’ll pick her, she’s perfect(ly just okay)!”

Then I met my wife.

And everything changed.

I loved being around her. We could hang out all day every day and I never got sick of her. I missed her when she was gone. She could hang with my friends. When I did something cool I wish she was there too, like something was missing without her. She was the first person I actually wanted to have a baby with (and thank God I didn’t have any babies with the “okay” ones). I could be myself (which then lead to me needing to figure out just who the hell I was. I will save that for another time). She was perfect. She was my best friend.

And it finally hit me.

This is what it is supposed to be like. That 1 out of 10 was what you were going for.

Tim Ferriss quotes Mark Twain all the time, “When you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.”

I was focused on the 9, not the 1.

I looked at it even worse than that. It was roulette. It was a crapshoot. No one could figure out which marriages work and which ones don’t.

But we do. F’ing Hollywood was right!

Damn you Noah and Allie!!!

- Marry your best friend.

- Marry the one you don’t get sick of.

- Marry the one you miss when they are gone.

- Marry the one you can be yourself around.

- Marry the one that makes you feel like forever isn’t long enough.

Then you can be the one.

The one that does it the right way.

You just have to know what you are looking for.

But more importantly, you have to know that you can actually find it.

Joey

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