This
interview has been the most difficult to write. There is so much
tangible information I had a difficult time deciding what to leave out.
Here is the link to the podcast.
I pieced out the information for entrepreneurs specifically, but she
has so much wisdom for life in general, you should do yourself a favor
and check it out.
I
have taken her interview on 30 Days of Genius with Chase Jarvis,
extracted the information, and used it to answer common questions by
readers just like you, who are looking to take their lives to the next
level, or at least a different level than the one there are on.
Please enjoy.
How Do I Win?
The
most important aspect of winning is making sure that you are not
losing. Sabotaging is the easiest way to not only lose, but to feel like
a loser.
You
need to learn how to sift through your emotions, let go of the thoughts
and feelings that are
holding you back, and push through.
The sooner you push, the sooner you break through, the sooner you win.
Storytelling
This
is not the kind of storytelling where you sit around in a circle and no
matter what happens, everyone lives happily ever after. This is a
conspiracy theory type of storytelling, and you are the main character.
The good thing is, you are also the author of this story, and you are
the one that chooses the ending.
There
are two things that happen when we storytell: we get emotional, and we
fill in information that we do not have. After that, we react to the
situation where we filled in information as if it were fact, and it’s
not.
See how that can work against you?
What was that look? What did they mean by that? Are they being sarcastic? They hate me. I’m not good enough. I suck.
Sound familiar?
It should. We all do it, until we learn not to.
Rising Strong
Remember this: You WILL fail.
Expecting something more positive?
I bet you did.
But
I would rather be honest and realistic, because that is what is going
to help you. If you are truly putting yourself out there, truly engaging
in work and life, you will fail. If you are not failing, you are not
trying hard enough.
I
want you to have an honest and realistic perspective. You can get that
by asking yourself a few tough questions: 1. What am I feeling? 2. What
is the story I am telling myself? 3. What facts do I ACTUALLY have? 4.
What information do I still need?
Turn
directly to your storytelling self, listen to what you have to say,
acknowledge the feelings, then look at the situation and the information
you REALLY have.
After
you ask yourself those questions, ask the people you are dealing with
questions. Ask for clarification, maybe even go so far as to let them
know you are telling yourself a story based on your interaction and you
want clarification.
Show them you have the balls to ask tough questions.
They
will have more respect for you because you are showing that you have
respect for yourself. You will not allow yourself to storytell, you
would rather know the truth. Bravo to you!
Dealing With Discomfort
One
thing I found consistently with people that are able to recover faster
and rise stronger are the ones that are able to endure discomfort the
most.
Will it be uncomfortable clarifying a point with your boss? Probably.
When
you don’t get the outcome you want at a business meeting, will it be
uncomfortable to go back and possibly get beat up digging deeper in to
where you went wrong? Absolutely.
But
after those tough discussions, after the discomfort, you will have a
crystal clear view of the situation and how to handle it. You will learn
about them, you will learn about yourself, and you will be better for
it.
Keep
reminding yourself that it will be ok. You will get through it. How do I
know? Because when you keep pushing through the darkness you eventually
get to the light, every time. Think back on other difficult times in
your life, other difficult situations. How did you feel at the
beginning? Awful, I am sure. Well guess what? You are still here. And
you will be after the next one. It will be hard, but you keep pushing.
That’s how you win.
Quotes
“It
is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong
man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face
is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs,
who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without
error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who
knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a
worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high
achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while
daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and
timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt
“Unused
creativity. Creativity that has been disowned, is not benign. It’s
painful, it metastasizes and turns in to dangerous things.”
“When you own the story, you get to write the ending.”
“Your ability to rise should never be predicated on other people.”
Brene Brown Links
Chase Jarvis Links
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