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It is ironic that Pamela Anderson is launching a new campaign against porn.
She was my “gateway drug” to the media genre, even before the sex tape.
If it weren’t for her no one would have ever given a s*** about Paris Hilton, and Kim Kardashian would just be some chick in LA.
Thanks Pam!
Even
though her fame trajectory took off the less and less clothes she wore,
she might be the perfect spokesperson for this movement. She knows porn
from the inside out (no pun intended, well, maybe a little).
My General Thoughts On Porn
I
don’t even understand how porn exists. Honestly. I mean, I get why
people watch it and look at it, hot women, naked, fulfilling fantasies,
blah blah blah, etc. I just don’t understand how in the world you can
talk a woman in to doing any of that stuff on camera in the first place.
Half the stuff they do in porn you can’t talk the woman in to doing in private, let alone for the entire “interwebs” to see.
I
know the money is good (at least I hope), but holy s***. You are taking
the most intimate thing you can do with another person (or two
depending on the style of porn you are in to), and putting a camera
right up in there, in the middle of all the action, and then putting it
all over the web.
To me, that’s crazy!
It’s insane!
Just understanding the mindset of the girls the first time they do it would be fascinating.
Obviously
after the first time, they keep doing it because that way they can tell
themselves that it’s not that bad, so they don’t s*** on themselves for
their poor choices in life. But that first time? You know that never
goes away, right? Google is forever ladies.
I don’t get it.
Sucking d*** on camera?
Sucking two or three d***s at the same time on camera?
WTF are you thinking?
Even for the dudes.
What does your resume look like after being in porn? Craziness.
Even if you get paid, there is no honor in being a whore.
The same way there is no honor in being a drug dealer.
How you make your money is more important than how much money you make.
Use your brains and the gifts God gave you, not just the holes. (too graphic? Sorry).
The Serious Side Effects Of Porn
This may sound crazy.
You may be thinking,
“What’s wrong with looking at some titties every once in a while?”
“It’s safe, it’s better than cheating.”
“I still come home to my wife (or insert whatever your living situation is here)”
Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.
It is not safe, at all.
You think it’s just effecting you and your box of tissues, but it is actually re-wiring your brain.
Now there is good rewiring and bad rewiring.
How
do you decipher between good and bad rewiring? Well, when the thing
that is rewiring your brain is naked, or humping, or seems physically
impossible while naked and or humping, on top of the fact that you don’t
want people to know you are watching it, it’s bad rewiring.
Are we all on the same page?
Good.
Let’s get to the meat and potatoes.
Science Time
Porn
releases dopamine, and endorphins in to your brain. Your brain then
connects those happy, dopamine, chemicals to porn. Essentially creating a
pathway in your brain called “porn makes you happy.” It also releases
norepinephrine, which enhances your focus. Now you are telling your
brain to pay attention, that what you are doing is important. Porn has
now been engrained in your brain as an important, happy making device.
Let’s dig a little deeper.
When
you ejaculate, oxytocin and serotonin are released. What you just
watched and did made you feel calm, relaxed, and happy. You basically
just did heroin by watching porn and jacking off.
Seriously, make this connection: Watching porn does similar things to your system that heroin does.
Well, it’s better than heroin, right?
Please stop trying to talk your way in to more porn!
It’s bad. It’s all bad. Drugs and porn. Porn and drugs.
Relationships
Instead
of experiencing all of those wonderful chemical releases with your
spouse or significant other, you are experiencing them with Big Titty
Tina, or Little Anal Annie, or whatever person you are “viewing” that
day.
This is
also what happens with cheating. You are putting yourself in to a
situation when you are releasing a rush of high potent, mood shifting,
focus driving, chemicals in to your system with someone other than the
person you should be releasing them with. That, combined with the
chemicals released from doing “something bad”, creates a chemical
hormone bomb. You are basically training yourself to be a piece of s***.
Nice work.
Once
these chemicals get locked in (neural pathways created) to a person,
event or place other than your spouse or significant other, the pathways
are set. You have just created a paved road to straight to Not Good
Town in your brain. This is something VERY difficult to undo.
Your Brain On Drugs, Any Questions?
A
more comfortable example of the way pathways can be created in the
brain is with sugar. The way your brain connects energy and alertness
with sugar, which means when you are tired you have cravings for s***
food, because your brain knows it gives you quick energy, you are
connecting a physical and mental high with porn. When you want to feel
better, when you want to relax, when you want to feel the dopamine
levels spike, you turn to porn. You turn to millions and millions of
pages, photos, and videos of porn, all right at your fingertips.
Thousands of different women doing thousands of different things. When
you get tired of one there is another one right around the corner to
keep those dopamine levels high. It is quicksand, and you are walking
right in to it.
Have you seen The Princess Bride? You are in The Fire Swamp, but Wesley is not there to jump in after you.
Just
like drugs and alcohol, if you keep coming back to this “high” your
brain will stop producing as much dopamine. Just like the heroin or
cocaine addict, you start needing more to get the same high you did
before. More porn, more intense porn, different types of porn, who
knows? But it effects all aspects of your life. Because your dopamine
receptors are not as active, regular, day-to-day things that used to
make you happy or excited don’t anymore. Your dopamine receptors don’t
distinguish between boobies and baseball. All they know is they don’t
need to respond as much anymore. You are frying your happiness the way
someone who took too much ecstasy does. Now you are like a heroin,
cocaine and ecstasy addict. Happy Monday!
Addiction damages the brain!!
Do you believe me yet?
Look at Antony Weiner, talk about an addicted dude. Get help mother f***er!!
That’s
what we can turn ourselves in to by not taking this as seriously as we
do drugs. His “high” is sexting. Others are just porn, or just movies,
or whatever. But it manifests itself in to your daily life. I bet Mr.
Weiner (which ironically sounds like a great porn name) started out
watching porn. Just jacking off in his room or whatever, then it got
less stimulating, he was releasing less dopamine, it didn’t feel as good
or exciting, so he stepped it up. Viola!! Sexting!
He is an addict.
But just like with drugs, he trained himself in to being an addict by walking down a road he never should have been on.
And boom goes the dynamite.
The Challenge
How many days can you go without watching porn?
I don’t mean you don’t look at the crazy stuff you used and switch it softcore, or lingerie models instead, I mean cold turkey.
Think you can do 30 days?
Try it.
No porn, no lingerie ads, no swimsuit editions, no jacking off, no nothing.
For the next 30 days, you are porn free.
Have sex with your spouse or significant other as much as you want.
But no porn.
Can you do it?
Of course you will say yes now, but how about tonight, or tomorrow? What about in a few days?
That’s when you know if you have an issue or not, when you can’t do it.
Seen the Seinfeld episode?
How long can you last?
Try
to go 30 days, and take notice of the effects. I bet your relationship
will be better. I bet your sleep will be better. I know your sex will be
better. It will feel better. Not only mentally but physically. You
de-sensitize your gear when you “tie one off.” Sex will feel better.
How could it feel any better?
By not jacking off!
30 days.
If you make the whole 30 days I would love to hear from you.
If you don’t make it at all I would love to hear from you.
Have
Skype? Come on my podcast, lets talk about it. Let’s help other people
(mostly men) get over
this, help them make their lives better.
This issue is as serious as drugs.
It’s so serious, one of the drugs (Pamela Anderson) is turning on the other drugs.
Marijuana is telling on Coke (not a-cola), H, and X.
It’s time to take notice.
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